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They Always Tell You to “Be Yourself”

Jackie Kennedy, known for her grace and…”

“Audrey Heprburn, a timeless fashion icon who exhibited elegance and sophistication…”

“Marilyn let men chase after her, and it was seldom ever the…”

Her big brown eyes looked sadly over at the television screen. She was nursing a twisted ankle, the results of her efforts in trying to help her mother clean the floors.

“Blossom, are you alright?” her mother had asked her earlier. She was lying on the floor, wet from the soapy water, and was mentally scolding herself for being, yet again, so careless. “Just go to your room.”

As Blossom headed to her room, she could hear her mother’s faint mumbling. “…this girl can’t do anything right.”

And she knew it was true: she couldn’t do anything right. Not even simple house chores.

The documentary on TV about the most admired and beautiful women in history began to wane out, now just a simple slideshow of the women’s achievements with some sentimental background music. Blossom looked at the clock: 7:58 PM. It was almost ending anyways.

She leaned against her bed, her eyes still on the television screen. She wanted, so desperately, to be that elegant, that classy and sophisticated. She recalled a girl who her mother had pointed at school, who she’d labeled as “pretty, natural, classy”.

That girl who her mother had pointed out had actually been one of the most popular girls in school. Not for her looks or her chest size or whatever. It was her intelligence that did it, the way she interacted with people, and the way she presented herself. Beauty is only skin deep, after all. Blossom would observe her, taking note of how she acted, in the hopes that she, too, could become that well composed and intriguing.

Because Blossom was none of the things that she wanted to be. She wasn’t graceful like Jackie, instead being a complete klutz and was falling and tripping left and right, hardly ever taking notice of precautions or consequences or any of that stuff.

She was far from Audrey’s elegance. Blossom’s idea of a comfortable outfit literally consisted of shorts and a loose T-shirt. She loved her worn-out sneakers and secretly loathed getting dressed up and wearing makeup. She hated heels. She even hated ballet flats.

And don’t get her started on her dating life. “Let the boys chase you”? Please. She loved the chase. She loved being the one to go after what she wanted, thinking of ways she could win him over. She wasn’t patient or coy enough to have it be the other way around. Why wait for something that you could make happen yourself? She would think.

Blossom was an interesting girl. She liked laughing loud and showing emotions. She enjoyed being 30% tomboy and acting like a kid. She loved getting overly excited about the smallest things in life. That’s who she is.

But the thing is, she doesn’t like who she is. That’s not who she wants to be. She wished that she could be less clumsy, more apt, smarter, and that she could actually strut in ballet flats without looking like a duck waddling at the park.

All throughout elementary school, all throughout those awkward teenage years, they always tell you to “be yourself”. But what if you don’t like who “yourself” is?

 

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Like Father, Like Son

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“They called it Camelot.”
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Robert Dallek: well known historian and Kennedy expert, the guy that I usually see all the time in JFK documentaries and interviews. I am extremely excited to have begun reading his well-acclaimed novel “An Unfinished Life”. Just a couple of days ago actually, I’d read my first biography on JFK Jr. (it was amazing, as expected).

While reading “An Unfinished Life” however, I came across some characteristics about JFK that reminded me of some of JFK Jr.’s characteristics when I’d finished reading his biography days earlier. Of course, it’s no surprise to find similarities between them. But I just absolutely love seeing or pinpointing the resemblances between a father and his son, so I just want to take a moment to share with you guys the similarities that I’ve found so far between John F. Kennedy and none other than his namesake, John F. Kennedy Jr. Don’t hesitate to share other similarities not mentioned as well!

The two may bear of little resemblance: JFK with his sandy red hair and blue eyes, John-John with his dark hair and chocolate brown eyes. But of course, that’s just looks.

JFK had spent a portion of his teenage years at a boarding school called Choate. Multiple roommates would speak of how messy his room would be, clothes piled up in a corner. He’d been extremely disorganized and had a tendency to lose things. Similarly, JFK Jr. also had a horrible habit of losing things. He’d even had to put his keys on a chain to prevent him from losing them. But being the accident-prone guy he was, he would instead accidentally whack himself in the face with the keys.

In addition, JFK Jr. excelled at sports rather than academics, just like his father. The two of them got mediocre grades during school, and were both horrible spellers. JFK Jr., who had dyslexia, many times felt discouraged about his schoolwork. Jackie however, would rest assure him that he would overcome his obstacles. After all, his father had also been a horrible speller but he ended up becoming president of the United States.

What really struck a chord in me though was JFK’s decision to attend Princeton at the beginning of his college career instead of Harvard, which was where his father and his competitive older brother attended. JFK Jr. had chosen Brown University instead of the Kennedy’s trademark Harvard. The Kennedys are known for their daredevil and reckless personalities. Instilled within them are a sense of rebelliousness, and it was evidently clear that JFK had passed that very trait onto his son.

Of course there are other miscellaneous similarities such as how they both never had real trouble getting girls, their instant appeal towards the media, and how they both loved the sea.

Maybe it was these similarities that made the public so hopeful for America’s Prince. The King’s life had been cut short, his potential diminished. America was left to wonder if the Prince himself would take over the throne, bring Camelot back to its former glory and glamour. But unfortunately, his life had been cut short also. Hey. That’s another similarity. Golly gee.

I seriously just realized that. Wow.

On a brighter note, been addicted to John Legend’s “All of Me” ever since his breathtaking performance on The Grammys. Genius.

JFK Jr.’s Oedipal Complex

JFK Jr. and his wife, Carolyn Bassette

“Christy, let me see you make a JFK reference to Frankenstein.” 

Okay. I’ll try my best.

In Frankenstein by Mary Shelley, the Oedipus complex plays a crucial role in the relationship between Victor Frankenstein and his creation. Because Victor lost his mother, he is in constant search of companionship, which leads to his fondness and romantic relations with his “cousin” Elizabeth. She’d been taken in by Mrs. Frankenstein herself, and proves to serve as a liable version of his mother.

I am no expert in psychology but there are a couple of things that I do know based on my reading so far: the Oedipus complex, Freud’s idea that the child has sexual desires for the parent. It is said that children often grow up to marry people who remind them of their mother or father (depending on the gender) or have similar characteristics in general. I am honestly no expert and my knowledge in psychology is extremely limited so correct me if I’m wrong. But I do believe that history repeats itself, which would make sense in correspondence to the Oedipus complex since history is basically repeating itself with people. It seems unusual and quite disturbing to know that you have hidden desires for someone who is basically another version of your mother or father. But for JFK Jr., the Oedipus complex seems to be quite true.

JFK Jr. with his mother, Jacqueline

JFK Jr. was deeply influenced by his mother. After all, he looks just like her. But even though he was the splitting image of his mother, he had the reckless personality that his dad was notorious for. He liked action, excitement, adventure. Jackie confided with friends that she was actually very worried about John because his recklessness just made him all the more liable for injury and even more possibly, death.

They say opposites attract. JFK Jr.’s reckless nature ultimately wooed over Carolyn Bassette, a woman who, ironically enough, was often compared to Jackie. They were both very private, introverted people. JFK Jr. had grown up in the spotlight so he’d been used to all of the paparazzi following him around and such. But Carolyn wasn’t used to that at all. So she’d always put her face down and hunch her back whenever she was in front of the cameras. Her elegant and sophisticated fashion sense also won her comparisons to Jackie.

Check out JFK Jr. vs. The Paparazzi!

In my personal opinion, I find it no coincidence that JFK Jr. had married someone so strikingly similar to his mother. Not exactly in looks per se, but in my reading I distinctly remember that Carolyn was a person who consisted much of the same personality traits as Jackie: private, headstrong, stubborn, controlling. John had also married Carolyn after his mother’s passing, which may (or may not, who knows) correlate back to his need of a mother figure. However, author Edward Klein, who was also a close friend of Jackie’s, wrote that he is inclined to believe that had Jackie lived to see John marry Carolyn, that she would’ve disapproved. Even though Carolyn was similar to Jackie in some aspects, she was also incredibly unstable. She had cocaine and insecurity issues and a hot temper as well, which resulted in many fights with John. He desperately wanted children, but she refused. It frustrated him to no end.

Well Caroline Kennedy’s son, John Schlossberg, is said to be the approaching prince of Camelot, with his said-resemblance to his late uncle. I am curious as to who he will marry in the future. Caroline Kennedy, like Jackie, is also extremely private and cautious. She may look like her father but her personality is completely inherited from her mother. It’d be interesting if John also marries someone who shares the same introvert-type aspects.

Now can we all just take a moment to admire how JFK Jr. was chosen as Sexiest Man Alive back in People’s 1988 issue. Stunning.

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Also, really enjoying Taylor Dayne’s “Love Will Lead You Back”.

Sources: The Kennedy Curse by Edward Klein, which I am still currently in the midst of reading.

Opinion: Lady Gaga’s AMA Performance

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Not as funny as it seems.

Let me just start off this post by clarifying that I am not an anti-Gaga fan. But, I am a strong and avid Kennedy fan.

JFK’s affairs aren’t a secret. He’s had more relationships with women than he himself (or anyone else for that matter) can count and it’s a well-known fact that he’d been quite the womanizer. And of course, Jackie had known this.

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Behold, everyone, Jacqueline Kennedy. As many of you may already know, I am currently reading “These Few Precious Days” by Christopher Anderson, a biography that tells the story of Jack and Jackie’s relationship (I actually finished it a couple of days ago but am still in the process of soaking it in). I learned much about Jackie while reading that novel. She wasn’t naive, she wasn’t that innocent little girl who waited on JFK’s hand and foot. She was a strong, independent woman, a woman who knew about her husband’s infidelities. But if she knew, then why didn’t she divorce him, you may ask?

I, myself, had wondered the same question. Apparently, she had considered divorce. Twice. Her father-in-law, Joe Kennedy Sr. had to bribe her with money to have her stay with JFK because he knew that she would make the perfect first lady. Also, JFK had originally married her only because his father told him that he needed a family if he wanted to become president. He needed a wife and children. All for the image. The Kennedys were very much into the image of things, after all.

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JFK hadn’t been the only unfaithful Kennedy. Actually, all of the Kennedy men were unfaithful, courtesy of the teachings of the Kennedy patriarch himself, Joe Sr. He encouraged them to play the field. In turn, the Kennedy boys viewed sex and women as nothing more than a hobby of sorts. In JFK’s mind, his philandering was morally acceptable.

Jackie allowed the affairs. She’d even sometimes made jokes about Jack’s girls, as expected from her dark humor. But she had always been extremely wary of one particular woman: Marilyn Monroe.

The last thing Jackie wanted to be was a laughing stock. Monroe often bragged to people that JFK was going to leave Jackie for her, that she will eventually be the new first lady. Jackie feared that JFK’s affair with Monroe would leak out to the press (which would’ve caused uprising for sure since Hollywood and politics weren’t known to exactly mix back in the 60s) and that, in turn, would humiliate her and downgrade Camelot’s image and reputation forever.

The “JFK and Marilyn Monroe” hype certainly is insulting to me. I respect Jackie Kennedy greatly, considering that she’d been the one right next to JFK when he got shot. She’d been the one soaked in her husband’s blood. She had to live with the entire world knowing that she’s the widow of the assassinated president.

And now the media decides to do what Jackie feared: publicize the Monroe affair. Not only was this award show broadcasted across the nation, but it was also performed by the extremely popular Lady Gaga. Teenagers watch this, younger kids watch this, and what will they think of JFK because of it?

“He’s the president who had an affair with Marilyn Monroe. Jacqueline Kennedy who?”

The affair shouldn’t be mocked. It shouldn’t be publicized on live TV where millions are watching. Because Jackie Kennedy is a woman who deserves to be respected, and a grand exaggeration of her husband’s affair is not only a humiliation to her, but to the Camelot era as a whole.

And now here is one of my favorite (or perhaps even my absolute favorite) pictures of Jack and Jackie. The way she’s looking at him is just simply breathtaking. It’s as if she finds him to be the most incredible and wonderful man in the entire world, which she did. She did.

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If you made it to the end of this post, I sincerely congratulate you. -throws confetti-

Books: These Few Precious Days

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“Of all the women I’ve ever known, there was only one I could’ve married — and I married her.”

Simply captivating. I actually tried to read this book as slow as I could because I didn’t want it to end.

It tells the story of one of America’s most beloved couples: John F. Kennedy and Jackie Kennedy. It was sort of like reading an actual romance novel, without all of the mushy gushy stuff, considering Jack and Jackie both weren’t a fan of PDA. For the longest time, I’ve been reading those Young Adult novels (many of which, are too simple in writing structure and are just cliche chick flicks in a paper binding) but due to my recent ignited interest in the Kennedys (most likely because that day is in this month) I have switched over to non-fiction., which is very refreshing. Through reading non-fiction novels I actually learn things, things that those young adult novels don’t teach you. Such as the fact that JFK actually wasn’t a fan of skin-ship and loathed being touch. Hence, why there are very few clips of Jack and Jackie touching each other at all. There are some that I’ve seen, but not many, unfortunately.

 

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My current cellphone wallpaper.

I learned many things about JFK that I never knew before. Most importantly, before reading this book, I hadn’t been the biggest fan of Jackie. I’d always found her as too uptight. But this book completely changed the way I viewed her.

Because Jackie lived much longer than JFK had, of course there’d be more quotes and stories about her. But through this book I learned how driven she was, how headstrong and tough she was. Even though she’d been twelve years younger than JFK, the two seemed to share the same intellect and personality. It was amazing to see how much they related to each other, how much she’d truly been the only one fit for him.

As an avid Kennedy fan, I am aware of JFK’s numerous affairs and perhaps his relationship and supposed “love” for Jackie is a whole over-exaggeration due to the media. But of course the little budding romantic inside of me still likes to think that they’d shared a pure, true love.

If anyone has read this already, please tell me your thoughts! I would love to hear them!